Ask Alex… TOPIC: K.I.S.S.I.N.G!
Ask Alex
January 25, 2010
Filed under Ask Andi
Question: I am fifteen years old and my boyfriend wanst more than just hold hands. What does the Bible say about kissing?
About… K.I.S.S.I.N.G.
Dear Reader,
Thank you for your note. I hope the rest of this article helps you make the right choice…
We have all seen it a hundred times. It is during that epic battle, a conversation in the rain, or after a slow dance where the magic of a kiss is unveiled. In the midst of chaotic and confusing circumstances, a kiss seems to empower the hero with hope and give him the strength to keep on fighting. Suddenly, the tide changes, the battle is won, and the hero emerges victorious. Everyone sighs when he kisses the love of his life at the end of the movie and they ride off into the distance as the credits begin to roll.
Yet over time, movies have tarnished the act of a kiss, making it cheap and invaluable. It is no longer unique, but rather given out to anyone at anytime. Instead of it being a special and precious gift, it has become simply a stepping-stone to further physical intimacy. But what our world has failed to realize is that every “true love’s kiss” comes with strings attached. It’s like there are three paths, or roads, that you have to progress down in every relationship: the emotional/spiritual, intimacy, and commitment. In God’s plan, you progress down them together, at the same pace. But what’s happened in our world is that we no longer want to commit to anything. We don’t want to be tied down, so we go right down the path to intimacy.
Instead of waiting until we have walked along a little further on all three paths, we put our relationship on fast-forward and let our emotions take hold of us. Self-control goes out the window, and denying one’s flesh is quickly forgotten. But when a kiss becomes a first-date ritual, it loses its value. A kiss shouldn’t simply be a kiss. It should be a sign, a symbol that signifies that a couple is ready to commit to one another and that they have come to a deeper level of emotional and spiritual understanding.
Although if may be difficult to deny our physical desires and take it slow, in the long run, the wait will make each step even sweeter. But how do we resist temptation while we wait? Christ is the only one who can give us the strength to stand firm when temptation comes knocking on our door, so we must call upon Him to help guide our decisions and commitments. Ask Him to help you avoid tricky situations and to give you the wisdom and strength to not compromise your standards.