Dear Andi, how should students deal with the loss of a loved one?
September 19, 2011
Filed under Ask Andi, Top Stories
Death is a strange thing. People deal with loss in different ways, some better than others. Recently, Amy Lakatos, a CCA alumni, went to be with the Lord and this question was brought to light.
Dear Andi, how should students deal with the loss of a loved one?
Dear Reader,
It’s hard to comprehend death. Many people are left in shock and don’t know what to do with themselves. Others crawl into a hole of depression; they isolate themselves and don’t accept help from others. There are still some (generally among students) that don’t grieve or feel much remorse. For those people I would tell them not to worry about it or feel embarrassed; it is perfectly normal in students, not to feel grief. I believe that God only gives us as much as we can handle; God might be protecting you from feeling intense sorrow and wants to give it to you in small portions so that you are not overwhelmed. Students have so much going on in their lives from school and friends, to college decisions and just simply discovering who they are. This makes it harder for them to mourn. So in other words, if you are not grieving, I would like to say to you—don’t worry about it; God will help you through this one-day at a time, and only give you as much as you can handle.
Yet there are still those who will grieve and feel the loss greatly in everyday situations and big life events—just cling to God, hold Him so tightly that you might strangle Him; let Him carry you through (or if you are like me, drag you through). God is faithful and while this may sound as a cliché… there is light at the end of the tunnel.